I apologize for a post that I recently withdrew. If it showed up on your dashboard Titled "Unfolding" and then when you clicked on it you didn't see the post I'm sorry.
I decided to wait and share the the before and after story in a little more context. Basically, I was asked out on a lunch date and I was excited to see what would unfold and decided to share the expereince after the date.
Several months ago I noticed this Tall, Dark, Handsome and Friendly young man at my work place that also had an accent. Whenever our paths crossed he always made an effort for small talk and we would exchange pleasantries and friendly greetings.
Over a period of time, he got to know my name and I learned his. where we both originate from, and a little more than the surface chit chat. Eventually he asked for my number. I didn't hear from him or see him for a while after that. Around New Years eve I saw a call come through from an unfamiliar number so I did not answer. No message was left. Several days later I got a text message from the same number...."Good Morning" so I responded in kind and explained that I did not have the number saved in my phone and requested to know who this was. He identified himself and I pretty much said ...."Oh Okay."
I wasn't too engaging because while I was happy to finally hear from him I was a little put off because it took too long for him to make contact. Any way, several days later he asked if I was at work (through text) and where he could find me. I responded and said "I'm hiding in God's heart, when you find God you will find me." I'm sure he was stunned because it took him a while to respond and when he did it was with a :-).
Any way, he eventually sent me another message and said he wanted to see me and lets have lunch. I accepted and we went out for lunch.
He was a gentleman and we had a comfortable conversation like good friends. There were however several obvious red flags that signaled to me during our conversation. First, I heard the bad F word a couple times. I was thrown back and immediately let him know that my ears are sensitive and he could tell from my expression that I was uncomfortable with that. He was surprised and asked If I didn't curse.
Second, I also noticed that most of the information he shared with me about himself when we initially started exchanging chit chat were totally different this time around. I didn't say anything or try to get clarification because I like to listen and analyze. basically my conclusion is if you are a liar you are a liar and liar's can hardly keep their story the same each time.
Third, we are not on the same level intellectually or spiritually.
Though we had a relatively pleasant lunch date, I knew before leaving that he is not my kind of man and I wasn't interested and somehow he didn't appear AS handsome as he looked before after getting to know more about him. We are on different spectrums on various things, some of which are too much to mention in this already long post.
With all that said, I saw him a couple times since then and we were pleasant with greetings as usual. And in my mind I'm like, mmmm he is so handsome then I have to remind myself of my convictions that he is not the one for me.
I refuse to compromise on areas of compatibility; God's man for me WILL be spiritually connected and intellectually affected.
I refuse to be blinded by looks; Looks are deceiving. God's man for me is Beautiful inside and out.
I refuse to settle for less than what God has for me; God promised to supply all my needs according to His riches in glory. God also promised to prosper me in all things including the Man that will honor God and me and I will honor him as well.
I refuse to succum to temptation like Eve, knowing what God told her not to do but was decived by charming talk and looks.
I refuse, I refuse...In the Name of Jesus I refuse.